Love is patient and kind;
love does not envy or boast;
it is not arrogant or rude.
It does not insist on its own way;
it is not irritable or resentful;
it does not rejoice at wrongdoing,
but rejoices with the truth.
Love bears all things,
believes all things,
hopes all things,
endures all things.
Love never ends
1 Corinthians 13:4–8a
Love is unconditional. While it is understanding, it isn’t enabling. We allow those we love to own who they are without demanding change. If change is demanded, it isn’t love. It doesn’t mean we stay in a bad situation but it doesn’t mean we stop loving the person who we left. Love is not based on proximity if it is indeed love.
There is always a feeling of warmth and sharing when we are with the person we love. If there isn’t? It isn’t love. It’s something else we think is love.
Remember Love and Lust feel the same, love just lasts. The lust can be sexual or it can be personal. We may use the person to fulfill a need we have claiming to love them. That isn’t love. That’s using. And usually when that happens, we demand they change to suit us.
It has taken many years for me to realize that if I love myself, any other love is a wonderful gift. I don’t need them to complete me. I complete myself. What is really nice is then I can share myself with another. Love is giving, not taking. Yet when it is offered, we do partake of the gift of love another gives us.
Without them, we hurt. We aren’t lonely but we do miss them. That will never change. It will become easier but we still miss them. I miss Granny and Granddad. I miss my dog, Heidi who died when I was 8. I miss Killer, Greyhound and other pets I had. I miss those I loved who died.
Am I lonely? No. Do I seek to replace them? No. They can’t be replaced. I do miss them but I love them still and always will.
Have I “loved” someone when it wasn’t love? Yeah. Those old hormones sure do get in the damn way when you are 20.
Most of all… love never ends.
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