Doing things over and over and over and… You get the picture. I write. I know all about the over and over and over part. Every writer worth his salt has a Ground Hogs day with every book. You rewrite the scene until you get it right. You can do that with writing. You can’t do that with life.
We do the best we can with what we got in life. What we get is what the total of our existence, knowledge and wisdom. Then we make a choice.
The kid and I have a system called Act do not React.
Examine your problem from all sides. Will the problem fix itself if you do nothing? Can you live with it until it does fix itself? If the answer is yes, your problem is solved. No? Next step.
What can you do to solve the problem? Make a list of your choices Take the choice you like best and look at the action and the possible results of the action. Those results include the ones you want to happen and those you don’t want to happen. Example Confront a friend on their drinking: Result They get help. Result They say #$% you and walk out the door forever. Can you live with all the results of choice? Including unexpected results. If yes. Problem solved. If no, go to the next action and do the same.
By the time we hash it out, she knows what she wants to do and she does it. No regrets and no Groundhog’s Day wishes.
This is life.
You may not have it in an hour so you better make sure you don’t ever have to wish for Goundhog Day. Tell that person how you feel because you may never get another chance. They may walk out the door and into eternity. There was a book called Be Here Now. It’s a product of the 60s. As he states [and the capital letters are his] I ACCEPT THE HERE & NOW FULLY. That statement is very good advice. There are no Groundhog Days if you do that.
As Omar Khayyam wrote:
The Moving Finger writes; and, having writ, Moves on: nor all thy Piety nor Wit, Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line, Nor all thy Tears wash out a Word of it.
There are no Groundhog Days no matter how you wish for them unless you are a writer. You best get on with it.
And life, as the kid puts it sometimes is a choice between sucks and suckier.